What Jill Soloway, Teresa Palmer Would Tell Their 15-Year-Old Selves
We asked a bunch of women to dish out words of wisdom to the teenage version of themselves at Tuesday's Women in Film's Crystal + Lucy Awards. And the answers are pretty great.
Events like Women in Film's annual Crystal + Lucy Awards — held Tuesday night at the Hyatt Regency in Century City and presented by MaxMara, BMW of North America and Tiffany & Co. — serve to empower women by celebrating the work of accomplished leading ladies in Hollywood in the fields of film, TV and media.
We decided to ask some of the guests how they would empower themselves if they could travel back in time and have a chat with their 15-year-old selves. We love the answers so much — lots of smart advice for women and girls of all ages.
“You’re beautiful. You’re thin enough. You’re brilliant. People are going to make you feel bad about yourself, but not because there’s anything wrong with you, it’s because your power is too powerful. Young women have no idea how powerful they are, and young women owning their power — and women owning their power — is revolutionary. It will save the planet." – Transparent creator Jill Soloway
“There are so many things I would tell myself at 15, but the number one thing would be to be gentle with myself.” – actress Maria Bello
“I’ve learned a lot of things from my friend, Oprah Winfrey, and she told me that a lot of the things that are happening to you are not happening to you, it’s happening for you. When challenges come or little bumps in the road, I always think, ‘Wait — why is this happening and how does this nourish me?’ And that changes my perspective.” – director Ava DuVernay
“You are going to hear 'no' a lot, but that doesn’t mean it’s not going to work out. It just means that you have to keep working.” – actress Regina King
“That you are enough just the way you are. No bells or whistles. You don’t have to put on a façade to try and fit in. You are enough. Most women at that age — these teenagers feel less than — and that they truly can’t be themselves. They are trying to personify someone else ... maybe it’s someone they see in the media, and that’s why I feel I have such a responsibility to show my true self. This industry gives off a false sense of reality in so many ways, so it’s nice to strip it bare and say, ‘Hey, this is my authentic self and you are free to be your authentic self too.’” – actress Teresa Palmer
“Don’t worry so much. And know that anything can happen at any time. There’s always an exception and it might as well be you. Your life can change overnight. Don’t spend too much time worrying about the past and the future. Good things are coming. And horrible things are coming, too, so you might as well enjoy the day.” – actress Amy Landecker
“I would tell myself it’s a huge waste of time being embarrassed. It’s a huge waste of time suffering unnecessarily. We kind of start to become more quiet in a classroom. Girls stop asking questions, stop putting their hands up to ask questions. I would probably say, hey don’t waste so much time being embarrassed because no one is actually thinking about you. They’re actually thinking about themselves.” – actress Yael Stone
"Just calm down and don’t worry about what you don’t get. It always leads to the right thing. Don't suffer for the things that don’t happen because great things are right around the corner. There are so many invisible things that are waiting for us if we work hard." – actress Kate Flannery
“Work hard, be honest, return phone calls, read every script you can and don’t bullshit.” — ICM Partners agent Toni Howard, honored with the Sue Mengers Award