The essay, which was published on Monday, expands on a tweet she posted Friday in which she criticized Trump for tweeting that Christine Blasey Ford’s allegations against Brett Kavanaugh aren’t reliable because Ford didn’t immediately file a complaint. Ford has accused Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh of sexually assaulting her in high school.
Hey, @realDonaldTrump, Listen the fuck up.
I was sexually assaulted twice. Once when I was a teenager. I never filed a police report and it took me 30 years to tell me parents.
— Alyssa Milano (@Alyssa_Milano) September 21, 2018
“The courage of survivors will always be stronger than Donald Trump’s misogyny,” began Milano. “The lives of survivors will always be more important than Brett Kavanaugh’s career.”
“When I was sexually assaulted, I wasn’t that much older than Christine Blasey Ford — who now has a PhD in psychology — was when she says Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh sexually assaulted her,” she continued. “I’ve watched, horrified, as politicians and pundits refused to believe or take seriously these allegations.”
Milano called out Trump’s tweet, which she said “chilled me to my core.” She then pointed out that many victims of sexual assault do not immediately, if ever, report their experiences. “Victims of sexual assault often don’t report what happened because they know all too well that our stories are rarely taken seriously or believed — and that when it comes to sexual misconduct, our justice system is broken,” she wrote. “Now we are seeing our worst nightmares realized when we see the disbelief, pushback, hate and death threats Ford is receiving just because she had the courage to speak up.”
“It took me years after my assault to voice the experience to my closest friends. It took me three decades to tell my parents that the assault had even happened. I never filed a police report. I never told officials,” she continued. “I never tried to find justice for my pain because justice was never an option.”
The actress explained that speaking about her experience was traumatic. “For me, speaking up meant reliving one of the worst moments of my life,” she wrote. “It meant recognizing my attacker’s existence when I wanted nothing more than to forget that he was allowed to walk on this earth at all. This is what every survivor goes through. Telling our stories means being vulnerable to public attacks and ridicule when our only ‘crime’ was to be assaulted in the first place.”
She shared the statistic that one in four girls and one in six boys will be sexually assaulted before they turn 18. “This is the reality for survivors of sexual assault: Our journey begins in fear and, for many of us, it continues in fear for the rest of our lives,” she wrote.
Milano also addressed the many survivors that have shared their stories following the tweet she posted on Friday. “Our stories are not rare; they are tragically common. This is the pain that people across the country carry with them every single day. I encourage you to listen to members of your family, to your neighbors, to those in your community who are living with an experience similar to Ford’s,” she wrote. “But, most importantly, if you are also a survivor, I encourage you to honor your own experiences and your own voice, in your own time.”
“Despite the alleged actions of Brett Kavanaugh, despite the words of President Trump, and despite the silence from so many of our lawmakers, you are valuable. You are human. You are important,” she wrote. “And no one — not a Supreme Court nominee and not a president — can take that away from you.”
She concluded the essay by voicing her support for Blasey Ford. “I believe Christine Blasey Ford, and I demand that our senators vote to reject Brett Kavanaugh as the next justice on the Supreme Court,” she wrote. “Every person who refuses to loudly and openly reject Brett Kavanaugh’s nomination is telling every generation of Americans that an alleged abuser’s career is more valuable than a survivor’s humanity. And the highest court in our land is no place for an alleged sexual offender to sit.”
“To every survivor reading this, know that I am here with you. Know that I see you. I believe you. I am you,” she wrote. “And know that we will do whatever we can to stop Brett Kavanaugh from serving on the Supreme Court of our United States.”