Ariana Grande took to Twitter on Tuesday night to share a troubling experience with a young fan.
While out getting food with her boyfriend Mac Miller, the singer says “a young boy followed us to the car to tell Mac that he’s a big fan.” But by the time the two got to their car, she says, “he was literally almost in the car with us. I thought all of this was cute and exciting until he said ‘ariana is sexy as hell man I see you, I see you hitting that!!!’”
She writes in her post that she was offended by how the boy spoke to her and about her as if she wasn’t there, saying she felt “sick.”
“This may not seem like a big deal to some of you but I felt sick and objectified,” she says. “I’ve felt really quiet and hurt since that moment.”
This isn’t the first time that the singer has used her extensive social media reach to share powerful messages to her fans. Last year, she fired back against tabloids speculating who she was dating with a message about how they referred to her (then, largely as male singers’ possible love interests).
She tweeted: “I am tired of living in a world where women are mostly referred to as a man’s past, present or future PROPERTY/POSSESSION. I…do not. belong. to anyone. but myself. and neither do you.”
She continued her post on Tuesday night with a message to her female fans.
“Things like [this] happen all the time and are the kinds of moments that contribute to women’s sense of fear and inadequacy. I am not a piece of meat that a man gets to utilize for his pleasure. I’m an adult human being in a relationship with a man who treats me with love and respect.”
“It hurts my heart that so many young people are so comfortable enough using these phrases and objectifying women with such ease,” she continues. “I felt like speaking out about this one experience tonight because I know very well that most women know the sensation of being spoken about in an uncomfortable way publicly or taken advantage of publicly by a man. We need to talk about these moments openly because they are harmful and they live on inside of us as shame. We need to share and be vocal when something makes us feel uncomfortable because if we don’t, it will just continue. We are not objects or prizes. We are QUEENS.”